Of course, there's no one guidebook that applies to every interracial relationship out there. The challenges you'll face, as well as their intensity, will depend on various factors: whether you grew up with similar socio-economic backgrounds, if you live in a big city or small town, and which races are involved. Some interracial relationships are bound to be more racially charged and "eventful" than others, like when a Caucasian man dates an African-American woman in the South, or a Mexican woman falls for an Indian man who comes from a traditional family.
With 1 in 7 new marriages in the United States today being between people of different races or ethnicities, however, it's quite possible you'll find yourself dating someone of another race. Here are three tips should you go down that potentially bumpy, yet rewarding path:
Be sensitive to their feelings
We can never fully understand someone else's life experiences and how those situations led to their unique point of view. For example, if an African-American man grew up with salespeople following him around stores as though he might steal something, do you think that affected his opinions and beliefs about how the world works? We're guessing it did. On the flip side, a white man raised in the suburbs probably didn't have to think about race every single day, so racial issues aren't likely at the forefront of his mind as an adult.
Just be aware that the person you're dating may be sensitive about subjects to which you just can't relate. A woman of color might take offense if you refer to her as "exotic", even if you just thought you were giving her a compliment. She may have had previous experiences that make her think you just want to fulfill a fantasy or aren't taking her seriously if you use that particular word.
Interracial dating is both rewarding and difficult. You gain access to an entirely new culture, but you oppose the stereotypical common couple.
Most people will be surprised to discover that you are not a racially homogeneous couple, because it's uncommon. Some people are afraid to date outside of their race because they don't know what to expect. Others are either uncomfortable with it, or it has never occurred to them. Not everyone will be accepting of an interracial relationship, and that's perfectly fine. Not everyone has yet reached your level of acceptance.
The community around you will unfortunately make an impact on your relationship, but what your community thinks doesn't have to matter or impact anything. Many experiences just come with the territory. You either find ways
to deal with these experiences or love them, because in the end your mate is totally worth it.
1.People don't often come to the automatic conclusion that you are dating.
2.Meeting your mate's acquaintances and their eyes spring open into shock upon the sight of you. Shocker.... Your mate yet again neglected to inform them of you different race... again. Oh...you didn't tell me she was ...(white, black, Hispanic ext.). You will never hear that enough times.
3.Being constantly told, "You two will make beautiful babies someday" And if you do manage to stay together and reproduce, it's true ... you probably will make adorable children.
4.When you notice that a friend of your mate's is censoring their speech or jokes because of your race.
5.Being able to make casual racist jokes amongst each other because obviously neither of you are racist!
6.Cultural blending, of course! It is so much fun to educate your mate on your culture and learning about his/hers.
7.Meeting the racist friend/ family member. Let's face it, this happens at least once.
8. Tasting New Foods
9.People constantly ask you if it's strange to date a person of this race
10.Members of the opposite gender in your racial community occasionally look offended when you walk the streets together. As if your mate swooped down and stole you from their clutches.... Relax... you're not even my type.
11.You are able to discover, and voice all of those racial differences that people are too afraid to mention because they don't want to look racist.
12.Walking through a racist town in the South, or a racist town in the New England states means you will be stared at in shock or horror, but you're used to it. You've even made a game of it.
13.You inherit the ability to identify with two cultures, and can now easily avoid racial bias. You simply decide who will represent you both based on the race involved.
14.You will never be accused of racism.
15.You will never be one of those weird couples who look related.
16.People will make strange assumptions. Some people will assume that it's a fetish, and that you only like people of that race. Some will go further, and assume that you don't like your own skin, or your own race. Another assumption is that he or she may be dating you for a reason other than love. The world is still changing, and people are still adjusting... it happens.
17.You become more racially aware. You become more sensitive to racial issues, and maybe discover a few people you know aren't as racially accepting as you thought.